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I met my friend  Brad Kirsh in 1993. We were in elementary school, and I thought he was so cool that I even made myself a fake retainer so I could look like he did with his on!

I was a ridiculous kid, but that's a whole other email.

Anyway, life happened. I grew up and so did he. Nothing went wrong, but we lost touch.

...Do you have any people in your life like that? Ones that are just so kind that their friendship leaves an imprint on your heart, ones that you think are so special, ones that just come in and out for a season?

I hope this email from me is a nudge to remind you that you should contact someone you lost touch with today...

One of the most profound moments I’ve had was encountering a woman at a triathlon that I attended to cheer on a friend. The woman was alone and was cheering like there was no tomorrow. Not such an uncommon sight at a triathlon…but when I asked her who she was cheering for, I was amazed by her answer:


“Great! But who are you specifically here for?” I asked.

“No one. I don’t know anyone here.” She admitted.

What an awesome, selfless gesture, I thought to myself. To think, this woman marked her calendar for 5am on a Sunday to cheer for a bunch of strangers.

…And then I did what any rational person would do: I decided to join her. Together, we cheered on those athletes like our lives

“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” – Rumi 

Life doesn’t discriminate… Everyone gets hit with pain whether they’re rich or poor, healthy or unhealthy, etc…

I myself have been sitting with some deep emotional pain lately…  And of course, I made a vulnerable audio about it here.

It’s brought up a lot of questions for me— why it comes, what to do with it, and how to heal from it.

In the personal development world, the golden rule is to feel it all (unless you want it to stay with you for way too long).

…After all, if you choose to avoid pain, you also miss out on everything you’d learned from it. 

Oftentimes, I’ve found that painful emotions are like crying babies—if we see them, love them, and

The highlight of my old job at the Pentagon was my coffee break at Starbucks.

There. I said it.

Just that little, tiny 30 minutes, where I’d walk in the DC cold to sip that latte and watch interesting people. Everyone was interesting to me: the barista, the diplomats walking in, the housewives pushing their stroller… I wanted to get lost in all of their stories so I that didn’t have to go back into my workday.

That's why I always recommend that you hire a career coach if you aren't LOVING your work.

Everyone else I was watching just seemed so much more… fun. Even their outfits were more fun (my suit was a fashion prison cell for me). Can you relate? Heck, maybe your highlight is your bathroom break.


1. TEDx Talk: Why We All Need To Practice Emotional First Aid

What is it:  Psychologist, Guy Winch discusses four emotions that can overwhelm you if you don’t take your emotional health as seriously as your physical health.  These emotions are loneliness, failure, rejection, and rumination.  He points out that we suffer “emotional injuries” more than we suffer physical ones. Yet, we are more likely to seek medical treatment for an injury than we are to seek treatment for our emotional health.

Why we love it: Loneliness, failure, rejection, rumination.  Do any of these emotions feel familiar?  This could be the definition of a failed job hunt. It’s important to recognize that one, or all, of these emotions, may overwhelm you while you are on the path to finding

Cindy was an eager job hunter, and by the time she found me, she’d sent out 179 job applications, to be exact. Naturally, she challenged me when I told her there were countless employers out there actively recruiting for great talent.

Cindy responded: “If they were really hiring, someone would have responded by now.”

I explained to her that it’s just a matter of making the right moves so that you’re getting noticed. Plus, the landscape for job hunting and recruiting has changed drastically, thanks to social media.

Social media has created an ideal platform for a growing recruitment practice employers are using called “passive recruiting”—basically, a fancy term for the act of poaching good talent from other employers by recruiting people who aren’t even in the job