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“Don’t mistake my kindness as a weakness.”

I heard that from a woman who runs a high-level intelligence unit for the Department of Homeland Security. We met at a networking event years ago and instantly turned into friends… And if you know me, you know my friends are the age of my mother.

…So, she’s in her 50s and incredibly inspiring.

With her red lipstick, her high heels and her leopard mittens on, I almost couldn’t take her seriously when she said those words.

“Are you telling me you and your gummy bear martini over here can be aggressive and assertive towards people?” I asked.

She fiercely starred me in the eye: “Oh, believe me. Just because I’m nice and I wear stilettos to the office doesn’t mean I don’t know how

It was 4am and I was in an uber en route to catch a flight to Chicago. I had a segment scheduled on Good Morning Chicago the next morning (here it is!), and was highly occupied with my notes.

I looked up. My driver seemed sleepy… So I asked her: “Is this the beginning of your shift?”

“No. I’ve been driving for 3 days now —all I’ve had is a couple of 2-3 hour naps,” she confessed.

First, I felt a bit concerned about my safety being in a car with a driver who hadn’t slept. Then I felt some concern about her health… And then I was simply curious as to why she’d ever do something like that to herself.

“My boyfriend left me, and I have three days left to pay the rent.”


I always tell my clients that they should be prepared to answer all sorts of different questions during a job interview. After all, employers are known for throwing in curveball questions to catch prospective employees off guard and gauge how they react. Do you know what you would say if someone interviewing you asked, “What sort of animal would you be?” or “Design a spice rack for the blind,” or “What would you do if you found a penguin in the freezer?”

Probably not.

But fortunately for you, employers tend to stick to the basics when it comes to interviewing candidates. Here are seven of the most common interview questions and how to ace them.

1. “Tell me about yourself.”

This is the notoriously vague question you’ll get in some form or fashion on

I wrote recently about common distractions at work, and how they interfere with employee productivity. Cell phones, the internet, and gossip are undoubtedly among the list of those responsible for affecting our focus during the workday and decreasing productivity... This got me thinking about ways to combat and minimize workplace distractions so that our economy and employees continue to grow.

And this brings me to the inevitable question…Why are so many people distracted at work? Is it because the distractions are readily available and they make it hard to focus? Or do employees lack motivation, which causes their minds to wander over to these distractions?

And hence, a typical “chicken or the egg” question.

Lack of motivation at work isn’t a foreign concept. In fact, most of my clients

I met my friend  Brad Kirsh in 1993. We were in elementary school, and I thought he was so cool that I even made myself a fake retainer so I could look like he did with his on!

I was a ridiculous kid, but that's a whole other email.

Anyway, life happened. I grew up and so did he. Nothing went wrong, but we lost touch.

...Do you have any people in your life like that? Ones that are just so kind that their friendship leaves an imprint on your heart, ones that you think are so special, ones that just come in and out for a season?

I hope this email from me is a nudge to remind you that you should contact someone you lost touch with today...

One of the most profound moments I’ve had was encountering a woman at a triathlon that I attended to cheer on a friend. The woman was alone and was cheering like there was no tomorrow. Not such an uncommon sight at a triathlon…but when I asked her who she was cheering for, I was amazed by her answer:


“Great! But who are you specifically here for?” I asked.

“No one. I don’t know anyone here.” She admitted.

What an awesome, selfless gesture, I thought to myself. To think, this woman marked her calendar for 5am on a Sunday to cheer for a bunch of strangers.

…And then I did what any rational person would do: I decided to join her. Together, we cheered on those athletes like our lives