On Pain

NewsletterAshley Stahl

“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” – Rumi  Life doesn’t discriminate… Everyone gets hit with pain whether they’re rich or poor, healthy or unhealthy, etc… I myself have been sitting with some deep emotional pain lately…  And of course, I made a vulnerable audio about it here. It’s brought up a lot of questions for me— why it comes, what to do with it, and how to heal from it. In the personal development world, the golden rule is to feel it all (unless you want it to stay with you for way too long). …After all, if you choose to avoid pain, you also miss out on everything you’d learned from it.  Oftentimes, I’ve found that painful emotions are like crying babies—if … Read More

On Choices

NewsletterAshley Stahl

The highlight of my old job at the Pentagon was my coffee break at Starbucks. There. I said it. Just that little, tiny 30 minutes, where I’d walk in the DC cold to sip that latte and watch interesting people. Everyone was interesting to me: the barista, the diplomats walking in, the housewives pushing their stroller… I wanted to get lost in all of their stories so I that didn’t have to go back into my workday. That’s why I always recommend that you hire a career coach if you aren’t LOVING your work. Everyone else I was watching just seemed so much more… fun. Even their outfits were more fun (my suit was a fashion prison cell for me). Can you relate? Heck, maybe your highlight … Read More

How to Stop Emotional Bleeding (3 Things We Love This Week)

NewsletterAshley Stahl

1. TEDx Talk: Why We All Need To Practice Emotional First Aid What is it:  Psychologist, Guy Winch discusses four emotions that can overwhelm you if you don’t take your emotional health as seriously as your physical health.  These emotions are loneliness, failure, rejection, and rumination.  He points out that we suffer “emotional injuries” more than we suffer physical ones. Yet, we are more likely to seek medical treatment for an injury than we are to seek treatment for our emotional health. Why we love it: Loneliness, failure, rejection, rumination.  Do any of these emotions feel familiar?  This could be the definition of a failed job hunt. It’s important to recognize that one, or all, of these emotions, may overwhelm you while you are on the path … Read More

On self love

NewsletterAshley Stahl

    I cringed as I wrote the word “self love” in the subject line of this note. For years, I told myself this topic was “trite” and “nebulous,” meant only for bizarre yoga classes and coachy-coachy life coaches. …Until I realized that I didn’t learn how to love myself. I made an audio about it here. Why? Because life was fairly easy. And conflict is often what challenges us to rise to the occasion of loving ourselves. In short, I didn’t have to love myself because things were good. So what’s it look like when someone loves himself or herself? I talk a lot about this in my audio, and I’ve been working on this! It looks like boundaries. It looks like creating space to … Read More