On disconnection

NewsletterAshley Stahl

  I’ve been feeling a bit disconnected lately. So in true Ash fashion, I made an audio about it. Disconnected from this business. Disconnected from some friendships. Disconnected from myself. Whenever I get disconnected, I watch my thoughts rush in… Should I leave this relationship? I don’t feel connected. Should I quit this business? I don’t feel inspired. Should I move out of this apartment? I’m bored. And in those moments—listening to my thoughts— I realized something so profound… Disconnection is not necessarily an invitation to end or leave something; it’s an invitation to go deeper. Why? Because it starts with your relationship with yourself. I can only connectas much with the world as I am willing to connect with myself… Point blank. I talk about … Read More

On instinct

NewsletterAshley Stahl

  One of the best questions I heard someone ask in my Master’s program was this: How do you know the difference between instinct and fear? Obviously I made an audio about it 🙂 I’ve struggled with this for years. And here’s the way you can tell: instinct is an absolute message within, meaning it sounds like this: “This is right for me.” “This doesn’t feel right.” “There must be an easier way.” It doesn’t work in fear, and it’s never judgmental. The following statements arenot instinct: “There’s better than this.” “It shouldn’t be this way.” “Watch out.” “He’s mean.” I talk about this dynamic on my audio here.  The bigger question I want to ask you, though, is this: Why do you choose not to listen … Read More

When Perfection Isn’t Good Enough (3 Things We Love This Week)

NewsletterAshley Stahl

1. Ted Institute Talk: Perfectionism Holds Us Back. Here’s Why. What is it:  This is not a speech by a psychologist or career coach; Charly Haversat is the Vice President of Alternative Investments at State Street. This is a real world look at how our obsession with perfection holds us back from finding the career that we love. Why we love it: Perfectionism is an “all or nothing” problem Perfectionist don’tbother with leisure activities, they are focused on their work. They hold people to impossibly high standards. We encourage you to find your “perfect” career, but “perfect” does not mean a career without challenges and growth. It means that you find a career that provides you with the utmost joy, ability to grow, and the least amount … Read More

Where did my “confidence” come from?

NewsletterAshley Stahl

  Wow—what a topic.   For a long time, I bought into the belief that I was confident. It wasn’t until I met a soul mate of mine—someone who challenges me unlike any other— that I would learn that there are two types of confidence:   1. Real, unshakeable confidence 2. False, perceived confidence   I made an audio on this—click here to learn more. It wasn’t until my late 20s (I turn 30 next month!) that I realized I was walking around for YEARS embodying a very false sense of confidence.   Where did my “confidence” come from? My career. It was what I was “good at”—whatever that means.   But guess what? Pentagon, schmentagon… The moment my career experienced any lapse, it felt … Read More