Stop Trying to Be​ Happy (3 Things We Love This Week)

NewsletterAshley Stahl

1. Online Article: Stop Trying To Be Happy What it is: Mark Manson is a New York Times bestselling author, a blogger and internet entrepreneur. He hands out life advice in a subtle tongue-in-cheek tone while offering up some great advice. Why we love it: If you try too hard at anything it’s going to show; in your job, an interview or a relationship.  Have you ever watched someone who is tryingto be funny?  You find yourself being embarrassed for them.  On the other hand, when someone says something that is funny, and spontaneous, you laugh until your sides ache. The same is true about being happy. Read about the different definitions of happiness in this article. It’s not something that you need to practice. As Yoda once said, “Do. … Read More

On disconnection

NewsletterAshley Stahl

  I’ve been feeling a bit disconnected lately. So in true Ash fashion, I made an audio about it. Disconnected from this business. Disconnected from some friendships. Disconnected from myself. Whenever I get disconnected, I watch my thoughts rush in… Should I leave this relationship? I don’t feel connected. Should I quit this business? I don’t feel inspired. Should I move out of this apartment? I’m bored. And in those moments—listening to my thoughts— I realized something so profound… Disconnection is not necessarily an invitation to end or leave something; it’s an invitation to go deeper. Why? Because it starts with your relationship with yourself. I can only connectas much with the world as I am willing to connect with myself… Point blank. I talk about … Read More

On instinct

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  One of the best questions I heard someone ask in my Master’s program was this: How do you know the difference between instinct and fear? Obviously I made an audio about it 🙂 I’ve struggled with this for years. And here’s the way you can tell: instinct is an absolute message within, meaning it sounds like this: “This is right for me.” “This doesn’t feel right.” “There must be an easier way.” It doesn’t work in fear, and it’s never judgmental. The following statements arenot instinct: “There’s better than this.” “It shouldn’t be this way.” “Watch out.” “He’s mean.” I talk about this dynamic on my audio here.  The bigger question I want to ask you, though, is this: Why do you choose not to listen … Read More

When Perfection Isn’t Good Enough (3 Things We Love This Week)

NewsletterAshley Stahl

1. Ted Institute Talk: Perfectionism Holds Us Back. Here’s Why. What is it:  This is not a speech by a psychologist or career coach; Charly Haversat is the Vice President of Alternative Investments at State Street. This is a real world look at how our obsession with perfection holds us back from finding the career that we love. Why we love it: Perfectionism is an “all or nothing” problem Perfectionist don’tbother with leisure activities, they are focused on their work. They hold people to impossibly high standards. We encourage you to find your “perfect” career, but “perfect” does not mean a career without challenges and growth. It means that you find a career that provides you with the utmost joy, ability to grow, and the least amount … Read More